OMG! Funny story:
Preface: Rosie dresses very boyish. You won’t EVER see her in tight fitted or feminine clothing.
Okay now the funny part:
We woke up super late so Rosie jumped out of bed and ran to get the boys up still in her pajamas. When I left the bedroom Jasper came running out of his room going “MOMMY MOMMY! Momma D has boobs, JUST LIKE YOU!”
HAHAHAHAhahahahaha. For some reason Rosie and decided to use one of my tank tops as a pajama top last night. The cut of the top made her usually hidden form obvious. Apparently Jasper had never realized that Rosie had boobs too.
Wednesday, December 2, 2009
Maybe I am naive
I received a call today for the state coordinator to set up Sarah’s family planning meeting. We have it schedule for Monday at 2pm.
After talking to Sarah’s social worker last night I kept thinking of a comment she had made. She had asked if we were sure we wanted to move forward on Sarah and that she tends to have a ‘Honeymoon’ period. I realize that we are definitely in a honeymoon period with Sarah but I felt I have a good sense of her. With Buzz, Simba, Jasper, and Gus we had a honey moon period but you could always sense what things were going to be a problem. I see several areas where Sarah and I will butt heads but I think we can handle it.
I sent an email to our social worker shortly after our conversation and said I hoped that she didn’t think we were naïve by jumping on the permanency train with Sarah. When something feels right you just go after. I then wrote “Scratch that, we probably are naïve, but that is probably for the best. Nobody said following the path that feels right was easy. Maybe not knowing what I am getting myself into is a good thing.”
After talking to Sarah’s social worker last night I kept thinking of a comment she had made. She had asked if we were sure we wanted to move forward on Sarah and that she tends to have a ‘Honeymoon’ period. I realize that we are definitely in a honeymoon period with Sarah but I felt I have a good sense of her. With Buzz, Simba, Jasper, and Gus we had a honey moon period but you could always sense what things were going to be a problem. I see several areas where Sarah and I will butt heads but I think we can handle it.
I sent an email to our social worker shortly after our conversation and said I hoped that she didn’t think we were naïve by jumping on the permanency train with Sarah. When something feels right you just go after. I then wrote “Scratch that, we probably are naïve, but that is probably for the best. Nobody said following the path that feels right was easy. Maybe not knowing what I am getting myself into is a good thing.”
Monday, November 30, 2009
7100
OMG! I have had 7100 hits on my blog! That's redonkulous, simply redonkulous! What kid movie is that from?
Decision on Sarah and the Difference between Mom & Dad
I posted some pictures of our nature walk below. The kids had so much fun. I picture of Jasper was when he was being a Mr. Grumpy Bottoms. He yelled in the grumpiest voice he could muster; “I AM NOT BEING A MR. GRUMPY BOTTOMS.”.
Gus got upset and said I was being so mean to him when I yelled at him for walking on the fallen logs going across the creek. Just because I had already yelled at Jasper and Sarah for going on the logs doesn’t mean that I could get even more upset when he did it. I mean, I never directly told HIM he couldn’t go on the logs. LOL.
Rosie and I have discussed among ourselves and family and we have decided that we want to move forward with becoming Sarah’s foster-to-adopt placement. My friends/family had some concerns and I admit that I share them. Most of them revolve around me being able to deal with normal 13 year-old-behavior, nothing to do with Sarah herself.
I emailed Jasper and Sarah’s social worker with the news and got this response this morning. She seemed really excited…..
“Oh my GOSH!!! That’s such great news! Today is very hectic for me
but I will call you tomorrow ASAP! I am so excited for you guys!”
I wanted to tell Sarah our decision before she left last night, especially when she was almost in tears, but Rosie and I decided against it until it was officially. We didn’t want to promise anything until all the I’s have been dotted and T’s have been crossed. Sarah doesn’t need to be let down anymore. I will let you know more when I do.
I would like to take a moment to feel sorry for myself with the following story:
This morning I got a text message from my mother that said, “I love you.”
Normally, when a child gets a text like this from their mother they feel warm, fuzzy and loved. I, on the other hand, see a whole other thing. My mom didn’t find something that reminded her of me and the good times, she isn’t passing by a picture of me on the fridge or glancing at a past Christmas present and was just so overwhelmed with love for me that she had to text me so.
My mother is probably sitting in a bed, in a house she hasn’t left for weeks, and sobbing her head out. She is probably contemplating how horrible her life is and even dabbling into the realm of wanting to kill herself. She is texting me to let me know that even through all this pain she is suffering she still loves me and holds on for us. If I call her she will choke out that nothing is wrong through the sobs and end the conversation with; “No matter what happens, I will always love you.”
So I text back “I love you too” and go along with my day.
But to end on a happier note:
I got a Happy Birthday email from my Dad who is currently vacationing in Costa Rica (The little brat, heehee). He wrote:
“Happy Birthday my Darling. I hope you have a very special day.
I love you very much. Love Dad”
This made me feel warm, fuzzy and loved. I am my Papi’s Darling and that makes me very happy.
UPDATE: HEEHEE, So I guess I should attach the pictures.
Gus got upset and said I was being so mean to him when I yelled at him for walking on the fallen logs going across the creek. Just because I had already yelled at Jasper and Sarah for going on the logs doesn’t mean that I could get even more upset when he did it. I mean, I never directly told HIM he couldn’t go on the logs. LOL.
Rosie and I have discussed among ourselves and family and we have decided that we want to move forward with becoming Sarah’s foster-to-adopt placement. My friends/family had some concerns and I admit that I share them. Most of them revolve around me being able to deal with normal 13 year-old-behavior, nothing to do with Sarah herself.
I emailed Jasper and Sarah’s social worker with the news and got this response this morning. She seemed really excited…..
“Oh my GOSH!!! That’s such great news! Today is very hectic for me
but I will call you tomorrow ASAP! I am so excited for you guys!”
I wanted to tell Sarah our decision before she left last night, especially when she was almost in tears, but Rosie and I decided against it until it was officially. We didn’t want to promise anything until all the I’s have been dotted and T’s have been crossed. Sarah doesn’t need to be let down anymore. I will let you know more when I do.
I would like to take a moment to feel sorry for myself with the following story:
This morning I got a text message from my mother that said, “I love you.”
Normally, when a child gets a text like this from their mother they feel warm, fuzzy and loved. I, on the other hand, see a whole other thing. My mom didn’t find something that reminded her of me and the good times, she isn’t passing by a picture of me on the fridge or glancing at a past Christmas present and was just so overwhelmed with love for me that she had to text me so.
My mother is probably sitting in a bed, in a house she hasn’t left for weeks, and sobbing her head out. She is probably contemplating how horrible her life is and even dabbling into the realm of wanting to kill herself. She is texting me to let me know that even through all this pain she is suffering she still loves me and holds on for us. If I call her she will choke out that nothing is wrong through the sobs and end the conversation with; “No matter what happens, I will always love you.”
So I text back “I love you too” and go along with my day.
But to end on a happier note:
I got a Happy Birthday email from my Dad who is currently vacationing in Costa Rica (The little brat, heehee). He wrote:
“Happy Birthday my Darling. I hope you have a very special day.
I love you very much. Love Dad”
This made me feel warm, fuzzy and loved. I am my Papi’s Darling and that makes me very happy.
UPDATE: HEEHEE, So I guess I should attach the pictures.
Thanksgiving, Lifetime Movies, and Jacob going shirtless
This Thanksgiving was the most memorable Thanksgiving I have ever had. Lil’sis and her boyfriend (I will never remember his blog name) ended up joining us last minute which was wonderful. I am so glad that Lil’sis likes to spend the holidays with us.
While Alice and I cooked, Gus and Jasper watched the Thanksgiving Parade on TV. Jasper doesn’t even watch Mickey Mouse club as intently as he watched those balloons. We then continued my family tradition of watching My Fair Lady. We received quite a few moans about it from the adults but I insisted, I so love that movie.
This is the first year I did the whole Black Friday experience. Rosie, Alice, Sarah, Dittie and I all joined the Toysrus madness at Midnight. We sent Rosie off 30 minutes before they opened to hold a place in line outside the store (she is so good to me). We totally scored some AWESOME deals but it meant standing in line until 2am to check out. We knew that if we feel asleep that we wouldn’t wake up for the 5am deals. Only Dittie and I were able to make it through the rest of the night, we lost several solders to the couches and beds.
Our first stop was Wally world but we abandoned that mission after a 20 minute search for a parking spot. We hit up World Market and Target and I was able to get some other killer deals. I made a half-ass effort to run into Wally World later in the morning for some deals I was after but once I caught myself thinking that even the floor would be a comfy place to crash, I decided to go home. I finally made it into bed around 9:30am after giving Rosie a list of must haves that she had to go pick up at Wally World.
I woke up around 2pm, played the new video game the kids had given me for my birthday and then we went my MIL’s for cream turkey over rice.
The rest of the weekend went really well. We had so much time hanging out with Sarah. She kept saying how she didn’t want to go back to her foster home and even cried at one point. We totally had a lifetime movie moment. Yesterday, the kids were getting stir crazy. We tried the park but everything was too wet. We then headed to the library. They weren’t open for another 15 minutes and while we were waiting Gus found a hiking trail behind the library. The trail followed a gorgeous stream and we followed it for about 30 minutes before turning around. As we were heading back, Gus realized that he had forgotten his hat somewhere along the way so Sarah and him went back to get it, while I dealt with a Mr. Grumpy Bottoms; AKA: Jasper.
When Sarah and Gus were back into view I noticed that Sarah was limping. She had caught her foot on a rock and fell. I checked her ankle and it was tender but nothing to serious but it still hurt to put too much weight on it. I kept asking if she needed help and she said she was fine. When she lost her balance and almost fell into the creek; I took her arm around my shoulder so she could use me as a crutch. She said she was fine and that she was use to and had always had to carry her own weight; I told her that she had me now and that she could share the load. We were literally talking about the weight she was putting on her foot but the hidden meaning behind the words was quite obvious.
Rosie welcomed us home with yummy garlic grill cheese sandwiches and hot cocoa. It was the perfect afternoon.
I saw New Moon on Saturday with Lil Sis. She had seen it previously but was taking me as a Birthday present. Lil’sis had previously poked fun at the fact that all the teen girls had screamed when the Jacob character had taken off his shirt so I told Lil’sis I would do the same. I don’t think she believed me…I let out a big OMG! When he took his shirt off and EVERYONE in the packed theater started laughing. As we were leaving I heard people talking about the ‘Girl who freaked out’. It was awesome! I love being able to embarrass my Lil’sis.
Ugh! There is so much to type and this post is getting long. I will just have to post another.
While Alice and I cooked, Gus and Jasper watched the Thanksgiving Parade on TV. Jasper doesn’t even watch Mickey Mouse club as intently as he watched those balloons. We then continued my family tradition of watching My Fair Lady. We received quite a few moans about it from the adults but I insisted, I so love that movie.
This is the first year I did the whole Black Friday experience. Rosie, Alice, Sarah, Dittie and I all joined the Toysrus madness at Midnight. We sent Rosie off 30 minutes before they opened to hold a place in line outside the store (she is so good to me). We totally scored some AWESOME deals but it meant standing in line until 2am to check out. We knew that if we feel asleep that we wouldn’t wake up for the 5am deals. Only Dittie and I were able to make it through the rest of the night, we lost several solders to the couches and beds.
Our first stop was Wally world but we abandoned that mission after a 20 minute search for a parking spot. We hit up World Market and Target and I was able to get some other killer deals. I made a half-ass effort to run into Wally World later in the morning for some deals I was after but once I caught myself thinking that even the floor would be a comfy place to crash, I decided to go home. I finally made it into bed around 9:30am after giving Rosie a list of must haves that she had to go pick up at Wally World.
I woke up around 2pm, played the new video game the kids had given me for my birthday and then we went my MIL’s for cream turkey over rice.
The rest of the weekend went really well. We had so much time hanging out with Sarah. She kept saying how she didn’t want to go back to her foster home and even cried at one point. We totally had a lifetime movie moment. Yesterday, the kids were getting stir crazy. We tried the park but everything was too wet. We then headed to the library. They weren’t open for another 15 minutes and while we were waiting Gus found a hiking trail behind the library. The trail followed a gorgeous stream and we followed it for about 30 minutes before turning around. As we were heading back, Gus realized that he had forgotten his hat somewhere along the way so Sarah and him went back to get it, while I dealt with a Mr. Grumpy Bottoms; AKA: Jasper.
When Sarah and Gus were back into view I noticed that Sarah was limping. She had caught her foot on a rock and fell. I checked her ankle and it was tender but nothing to serious but it still hurt to put too much weight on it. I kept asking if she needed help and she said she was fine. When she lost her balance and almost fell into the creek; I took her arm around my shoulder so she could use me as a crutch. She said she was fine and that she was use to and had always had to carry her own weight; I told her that she had me now and that she could share the load. We were literally talking about the weight she was putting on her foot but the hidden meaning behind the words was quite obvious.
Rosie welcomed us home with yummy garlic grill cheese sandwiches and hot cocoa. It was the perfect afternoon.
I saw New Moon on Saturday with Lil Sis. She had seen it previously but was taking me as a Birthday present. Lil’sis had previously poked fun at the fact that all the teen girls had screamed when the Jacob character had taken off his shirt so I told Lil’sis I would do the same. I don’t think she believed me…I let out a big OMG! When he took his shirt off and EVERYONE in the packed theater started laughing. As we were leaving I heard people talking about the ‘Girl who freaked out’. It was awesome! I love being able to embarrass my Lil’sis.
Ugh! There is so much to type and this post is getting long. I will just have to post another.
Wednesday, November 25, 2009
Thanksgiving
Sarah is coming tonight to stay with us until Sunday. I am so excited that she is coming and can’t wait to show her the Christmas stocking we had made for her. I also arranged with her foster mom that she will spend Christmas with us as well. Rosie and I had decided to wait until January and then have a sit down chat about it but I am feeling really good with the idea of Sarah coming to stay with us long-term next year.
This weekend will help our relationship with Sarah as a family. Neither Rosie or I are sick which is huge, it will be for 4 days instead of 2 and the house will be very active with holiday and shopping activities. The last two visits have been very mellow so she hasn’t seen us in action yet.
Last night I realized how far Jasper has come in regards to manners and following house rules. At one point I thought he would never learn but now he is giving Rosie and I reminders of the rules. The next biggest hurtle is how he interacts when he meets people for the first time or after a long absence. Right now he roars at them and then starts speaking baby talk.
Gus came back from his visit last night over an hour late. The social worker got VERY lost and ended up in another city. Gus didn’t say a word about his mother but was overjoyed about seeing his brother. The social worker gave us Gus brothers foster parent’s info so that we can call.
Thanksgiving is tomorrow and I have no idea what is going on. Alice was going to make my favorite dish, Turkey Tetrazzine, instead of our normal turkey dinner but then about 15 minutes ago we decided that we wanted to go traditional. So now I have to shop, prop and cook for a big thanksgiving dinner in 23 hrs. AHHHhh
I hope you all have a wonderful and joyous Thanksgiving! Eat a piece of Turkey for me!
This weekend will help our relationship with Sarah as a family. Neither Rosie or I are sick which is huge, it will be for 4 days instead of 2 and the house will be very active with holiday and shopping activities. The last two visits have been very mellow so she hasn’t seen us in action yet.
Last night I realized how far Jasper has come in regards to manners and following house rules. At one point I thought he would never learn but now he is giving Rosie and I reminders of the rules. The next biggest hurtle is how he interacts when he meets people for the first time or after a long absence. Right now he roars at them and then starts speaking baby talk.
Gus came back from his visit last night over an hour late. The social worker got VERY lost and ended up in another city. Gus didn’t say a word about his mother but was overjoyed about seeing his brother. The social worker gave us Gus brothers foster parent’s info so that we can call.
Thanksgiving is tomorrow and I have no idea what is going on. Alice was going to make my favorite dish, Turkey Tetrazzine, instead of our normal turkey dinner but then about 15 minutes ago we decided that we wanted to go traditional. So now I have to shop, prop and cook for a big thanksgiving dinner in 23 hrs. AHHHhh
I hope you all have a wonderful and joyous Thanksgiving! Eat a piece of Turkey for me!
Tuesday, November 24, 2009
Tattoo's and Allegations
Rosie had the first sitting of her Tattoo done on Sunday. The artist did not get any of the flowers drawn up so he just did the wording. She will have to go in for another 2-4 sittings to get the rest done. I blurred my FIL’s name and birthday date for privacy. What do you thing?
It was about 2/3 bigger than I expected it would be. The saying is “18 yellow roses will wilt and die someday, but a father’s love will never fade away.” Just add about 18 wilting dying flowers to her arm and there you go. I love the meaning behind the tattoo but I am not fond of the tattoo itself. I just don’t think having an arm of wilting, dead flowers is attractive at all.
So we can the ‘Unfounded’ letter from the state regarding the investigation:
Dear Carmel:
I am writing to you today to inform you of the results of the child protection investigation by the Department of Social and Health Services and your rights concerning the results of this investigation. On or about November 3, 2009, the Division of Licensed Resources/Child Protection Services received a report alleging that you abused or neglected a child. DLR/CPS investigated this report and has found that the alleged abuse or neglect did not occur or that there was insufficient evidence to determine whether the alleged child abuse did or did not occur.
What type of child abuse or neglect did you allegedly commit?
The allegation was: negligent treatment or maltreatment
It went on and on pretty much repeating itself and then it said it would stay on my record for 6 years and then be shredded.
I was really upset by the wording used. I report that my youngest foster son reported that he was ‘touched’ by my older foster son and I am suspected of negligent treatment or maltreatment. The words almost want to make me cry.
I am just glad that it is over with.
In happy news, Rosie ordered my Nook for my birthday! I won't get it until January due to the backorder but I am so excited!
It was about 2/3 bigger than I expected it would be. The saying is “18 yellow roses will wilt and die someday, but a father’s love will never fade away.” Just add about 18 wilting dying flowers to her arm and there you go. I love the meaning behind the tattoo but I am not fond of the tattoo itself. I just don’t think having an arm of wilting, dead flowers is attractive at all.
So we can the ‘Unfounded’ letter from the state regarding the investigation:
Dear Carmel:
I am writing to you today to inform you of the results of the child protection investigation by the Department of Social and Health Services and your rights concerning the results of this investigation. On or about November 3, 2009, the Division of Licensed Resources/Child Protection Services received a report alleging that you abused or neglected a child. DLR/CPS investigated this report and has found that the alleged abuse or neglect did not occur or that there was insufficient evidence to determine whether the alleged child abuse did or did not occur.
What type of child abuse or neglect did you allegedly commit?
The allegation was: negligent treatment or maltreatment
It went on and on pretty much repeating itself and then it said it would stay on my record for 6 years and then be shredded.
I was really upset by the wording used. I report that my youngest foster son reported that he was ‘touched’ by my older foster son and I am suspected of negligent treatment or maltreatment. The words almost want to make me cry.
I am just glad that it is over with.
In happy news, Rosie ordered my Nook for my birthday! I won't get it until January due to the backorder but I am so excited!
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